Should I or Should I Not Go?

So in texting my now ex back and fourth he is understandably mad. I get it and I do not blame him but as I said before, this is my only way out. I have tried to leave for the last year but with out success. So now he says he will be leaving to South America come next week and if I want anything in the house I have to bring my little one and go get it otherwise he is getting rid of it ALL. What sucks is I have personal papers and irreplaceable pictures but if I take her then I run the risk of either he not letting us go again or taking her from me so I can not see her again. The difference between us is that I do want her to have a relationship with her father, but with out me having to be with him. However, with everything he has said I do not know if that will happen. At least not anytime soon. I'm just so emotionally drained, I do not think it is a healthy relationship for someone to always have to defend themselves, their children, their family, or where they come from from the person they love - on a daily basis. I especially do not think a child should live their life being told they are ugly and a dumbass on a daily basis. Maybe if he would have let me leave my older one with my family as I wanted then I would have went back to him but instead he forbid me to leave her so therefor we all stayed. Yes it is going to be a rough ride ahead of us but one thing at a time and right now I have to decide if I can (afford) to go get my stuff and if it is worth the risk???